Tips by a Desi Playerette

Being an ABCD girl, since the age of 18 I’ve dealt with my fair share of immature desi guys whether they be FOB’s or ABCD’s. I never knew about the game until my first boyfriend happened to be a thug straight from Queens,NY. He got me onto the game at a very fast pace. And of course once I had learned the rules, I broke it off with him. Thereafter I was still naive at times thinking that “no he couldn’t be playing me could he??” Well of course a boy at the age of 19 can NEVER be serious in my opinion. But you always tend to get suckered in by that one man who tends to consume your every thought and action and therefore causing you to lose track of the game. But fear not because you WILL get over him and be back on track. So here it is ladies and boys take note for future reference:

Whether you are at a wedding, club, library, friends house… If the conversation is going great and you see potential, drop subtle hints that you could possibly be interested. DO NOT make it so obvious. He’ll ask you for your number (use your discretion of course). In my experiences it’s better to give your number than getting his number due to the mere fact that you can test the game skills from the get go depending on how long it takes him to call you. If he passes the 2 day rule..he’s in. Calling before 48 hours are up..I’d be scared.

So he wants to “hang out”. Don’t sound too excited (even though you may be). And act very nonchalant throughout the whole conversation (not bitchy because that is a deterrent). The point is you want to keep him interested by your mysterious attitude. It works like a charm. He asks you out for Friday night, you say no because you’re busy how about the following Wednesday. This way he’ll know that you’re usually busy on the weekends and obviously he doesn’t mean enough to you to for you guys to hang out on the weekends, especially on “date night”. Therefore he’ll have to settle for a Wednesday night.

Of course you try to play it off like it’s just another typical date but being a female you’re thinking “he could possibly be the one”. Please cancel that thought ASAP. It causes for blurred vision while on the date. So he comes to pick you up and a kiss on the cheek greets you. No biggie, just don’t be a bitch. Mystery is the key. He takes you to a nice Italian restaurant in his hometown about 20 minutes away. Says how this place is special to him. My interpretation, “I’ve taken many chics to this place, made them feel special and then have scored”. So don’t take it to heart, he says it to all the girls. Food was great and of course the date is going great to, but being nonchalant is working. He’s asking all the questions, he’s intrigued because he can’t seem to put his finger on the mystery.

He tries to kiss you good night and you DO NOT give in, no matter how much you like him. At this point he is completely befuddled as to what you are thinking. Perfect, the plan is working accordingly. So to throw him off, you call him the next day to say Thank you. That’s it. Keep it brief and then hang up.

He starts calling you every night at this point. Hold conversations with him certain nights and other nights pretend you are sleeping and that he woke you up. Usually you should do that when the night before you had a great conversation. He’ll be so apologetic but yet anxious at the same time. At this point, he’s hooked. Your mystery is working like a charm. He’s so used to playing girls and getting them to do anything. Sorry player, your days are over. If he thinks you’re worth it, he’ll stick it through, if not then he’ll talk to you about it or stop calling. But usually, he’ll continue calling and make excuses to hang out, thinking that maybe that way he’ll get to know you better.

If a month or two passes and nothing has changed on your behalf, then obviously he’s not worth it and call it off. If he is worth it, then give it a couple more weeks just to make sure that you are worth it to him before you reel him in for sure and give him the true you. Works like a charm!