ever wondered why we fall in love ...

Hmm

I guess I was trying to explore what is this human love in action. If I understand you correctly; you are talking about love at inception. For average human love in action means action of feelings, action of discriminating (using intellect to reach to the underlying truth, e.g., Archimedes in bath tub), action of giving expression in multimedia (audio, text, drawing, sculpturing, drama and movie) and even actions of societal organizing. I was trying to explore, in these love actions what attitudinal precautions one can take so that these love actions raise ones consciousness (fulfillment or Samadhi) an ultimately realize ones real self of SatChitAnanda. If these actions are done with the attitude of possessing things outside then these actions are not love actions but one which cause duality, lowering of consciousness. Our word Du-Kha denotes this. Kha is pit and du means two. Externalizing make us fall in pit of duality. Externalizing is desire. De - Sir. Whereas if we think that and start believing that what we seek is within ... nothing is outside. Namaste says this. The Shri (Sir) within me is also in you. This is Internalizing which will one to Savitark Samadhi which makes us move from lower to higher consciousness.

Even while responding to you, with the help of your written words I am trying to be you ... the gross me has to sublimate and occupy and be part of your mind space and connect to the feelings and the seeds of the thoughts which made you type these words. I might be little confusing. If you would like I can send you 6 pages on what I wrote to my sons who are IX graders.

Your concern is why in this life it appears that we love at first sight of certain beings or activities. The key word is "this life." It might be first sight in this life but never it is not the inception as per the Dharmic belief or even now according to science. Moreover this sight was in ones waking state. It might not be the first sight in this life if we consider dreaming state and deep sleep state.

What is Tajjali? Is it light (Taj)?

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Thanks a whole lot for the detailed response.

People say love at first sight has a dejavu feeling, like you REMEMBER something rather than OBSERVE it. If I were to try to associate with your explanation, it should be like ... a love that is already INTERNALISED (a default feature stored/built-in by the creator) is observed/felt on a certain (unseen) stimulus (the person subjected to God's showering TAJJALI), and the chosen observer falls in love at the first sight.

Then its up to that person's own comprehension/free will to INTERNALIZE or EXTERNALIZE the feeling ...

Please note that love out of desire is not the subject matter here, rather purely un-intentional love ...

What do you think ?

The nature teaches him whenever he is on second path he suffers lot of pain, anguish, jealousy and insecurity.

Please read first path of externalization. Externalization is Desire which is full of anguish, jealousy etc.

Desire destroys Sir or Shri.

Asking why one falls in love apparently for no good reason is like asking why one gets born in a particular family, culture or time. Dharmic relegions say it is because of Vasana ie residue of desire-karma. Male-female attraction or love is also for embodying new soul. Devaki & Vasudev married and gave birth to Krishna in a prison. There are many subtle and beyonf this birth factors behind many events in life not just "rising in love."

Few sound bytes: Falling in love has to become rising up in the love. The supreme being is within every thing.

What is love? I don't know the etymological root of it. We have word Prem which probably conveys the same meaning. There is Para ie transcendental and rama ie natural tendency of mind and Ahankar ie sense of I.

When I discussed with my own teen age sons, this is what we came up with.

It appears the moment we wake up every thing we do is for making things of our own.

Why?

Because of the sheeth of ignorance due to our Vasanas/Karma-residual-effects, we feel inadequate. We would like to transcend our limited-ness. The affection and respect of another being we think will fill the void. So we chase the love of other being. This chase has potential to raise ones consciousness and broaden ones mind but done with wrong attitude/understanding can bring down it. It can be or lead to Shivam & Sundaram. This chase we call falling in love will not be a fall of consciousness if we had the understanding that to begin with there was nothing external to chase for. But having this understanding means self realized state. We are not yet there. Then what?

Then holding on to this thought that ones beloved whether that be a hobby, being or even society (janata janardan) is within one and is one-self no matter what. This high fidelity to a cause or being is love.

When one has affection or love for something outside him, he can keep that thing outside of him (externalize) and crave for it or he broadens his mind and comes to an understanding that thing is within him (internalization). Depending on the level of consciousness one choses first, second or jumps from one path to other. The nature teaches him whenever he is on second path he suffers lot of pain, anguish, jealousy and insecurity.

In short love is for raising consciousness.

Thanks for the interacts. I find the self-realization theory very relevant guru jee, its a concept which is prevelant in all major religions in different perspectives. But what's your opinion in associating this love for The Supreme Being to the everyday phenomenon of falling in love as suggested above?

Could it be that the Supreme Being is the consciousness which pervades everything? A being which thinks and lives as a "limited being" disconnects itself from this all pervading universal consciousness. When this sheath of ignorance dissolves this limited being is not there and it cannot be distinguished from the universal consciousness. That is the self-realization we all are striving for because it will provide the infinite bliss or Anand.

The limited being can connect to only limited number of things. This process of connecting is love. In this connection the limited being starts growing from limited to infinite being or universal consciousness. That is why they say loe is devine.

I hope it helped and is not confusing

beautiful...i completely agree