Honey I love you but I need a Break

'Why don’t you ever try using your head? Am I supposed to tell you everything? What is the matter with you?' and the day begins.

I am sure several women are victims of emotional torture by their husbands; I never understood why I am not able to think like him? Why am I so careless and disorganized? Is it genes or is it natural? When my husband declares me Dumb I actually get dumb and dumber.

Most people lose their capacity to think when constantly told that they don’t use their brains and the thing between the ears (if any) is decaying. Having a husband who is loving and caring has never actually let me grow. I was 18 when I got married and a total spoilt brat. I was at the age where boys were cool and having an affair was the coolest thing in the entire universe, till fates played the game and I was married to a person 8 years older than me . If I would have been at a decent age when getting married life would have been different .But since the day I stepped in to my married life I was constantly told to do everything which was the main factor that I was never in control of what was happening. My husband always took me as an immature clumsy girl who is supposed to be guided on every point, every minuet and every detail and after four years of marriage, I am still the same.

I was more of a puppet and 'sorry 'word has actually taken over my life, bending my head on every compromise was an unwritten rule I had no right to even move his clothes as was too scared of his temper or may be too scared of him getting angry. Maybe this is how life is supposed to be. IS IT?

No it is not and I am through i.e. have not married him to tolerate his crap and why should I listen. My rebellious nature is back after god knows how long. The most interesting thing is how I opened my eyes. That is when I saw my brother in law obeying his wife over everything. She was like an instructor and he was a student. But my eyes were still not open till I had to compromise over her. And that was the breaking point.

There is a hidden mystery of marital bond which I will declare, so all u men out there who are confused and feel trapped and are not able to solve the puzzle that how their wives get away with what they want and make them do what they want this one is for you all. The rules which are used by all bitchy wives are

1. Head strong

2. NO compromise

3. Emotional black mail

4. Politics.

These rules worked magic for me. No seriously they did. The fact my darling husband was getting his way was that I showed him that I am week .I was ready to bend my head over everything and he started to sit on my head. Now the first thing I did was to lay all the rules straight and by keeping my foot down I deliver him a message that 'Sweet heart I love you but those days are over when u treated me like a door mat.' And the game begins.

First thing comes first. I had to change our life style and had to reflect the idea that I am not taking your Crap, Using all the rules in a calculative and constructive way, I started getting my way and got my life back on track as I was taking control over matters. That did make me feel confident and after four years I feel a change in me and I realize that I have a tongue and d a right to speak. And to look at and get my comforts. Taking control was no less than a war for me which did strike my husband.

Tongue if used calculative can work wonders, sometimes smile and cute words are used to get work done or sometimes rough language works. But sweetness is still affirmed and can escalade the speed of work done. Tears and words like 'you don’t care' are cherries on top of a beautiful cake.

Men are confused species, if given control. They can ruin you. No wonder it's said that behind every successful man there is a woman. There are so many ways to manipulate men as their brains stop working when their wives don’t talk or cry or refuse to eat.

After using all the methods of evil I am in a better state of life. Life is smooth, still need to work on many things but taking one step at a time will be more appreciated.

Spoiling husband is another evil trick and is another form of weapon of mass emotional destruction because at any time wives can make husbands realize what they go through every day and how they get washed and ironed clothes every morning.

The reason women want to get their son's married to a young girl is clear that young girls are not matured to take control, but what they don’t know is girls will become women one day.

An apology to all the women out their whose secrets are revealed by me as I broke the most divine law of sisterhood by leaking this confidential knowledge, but on the other hand congratulations to all the men as finally they are able to see clearly after the dust settle, and ready to get into the battle field using their ultra super powers.