The Dark Side of Love

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Thank you Doctor Sahib, you obviously have wealth of knowledge in this area. Come to think of jealous people that I have come across in my interactions, they do confirm your findings of having low self-esteem. I am a dad of two teenage boys, and there is a fairly intense sibling rivalry going on. I don’t know if it is even borderline “jealousy”, because the younger one is more athletic and the older one feels a little insecure about sports, and while they play together and have mutual friends; they don’t miss a chance to outdo one another.

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Dear Kulharee...I like your sense of humour about having sex with lights off. I said to

a friend yesterday that English is an intersting language. When people say they are going to

sleep together, the last thing they are going to do is sleep. On a serious note

you brought an interesting question about the relationship between low self confidence

and jealousy. Many jealous people I met had low self confidence but people with low self

confidence may not necessarily be jealous. It will be like peope suffering from pneumonia

have fever but all people with fever may not have pnemonia.

People with low self conficence and low self worth might have other symptoms and other

self destructive tendencies...for example getting involved with `losers` who are alcoholics

or other serious emotional problems like the lady you talk about. Some of them feel they

do not deserve a happy and healthy loving relationship as they feel they are not worthy of

it. Other than some extreme cases of jealousy that border on paranoia and might respond

to some antipsychotic medications most do not do well with medications and need ongoing

psychotherapy. In my practice they do better with group therapy as compared to individual

therapy. If the spouse is supportive, couple therapy helps them too. sincerely sohail

Doctor Sahib… the dark side of love? Is that the same as having sex with lights off?

You said, and I quote:

>>>In my clinical practice I have seen many patients in whom I feel jealousy was a reflection of personal insecurities. Such people had poor self-confidence and poor self-worth. They did not like themselves and were not proud of what they did. They felt either unattractive physically or uninteresting as people.<<<

Are you suggesting that only “jealous” people will have these attributes (of lack of self-worth, etc.)? I have a close friend who is so messed up that she is always attracted to losers (because she lacks self-confidence); here is her story: she was engaged to an guy for 4 years who turned out to be gay. She married a guy and they had sex only 4 times in their 2 year marriage, she just separated. She is the smartest woman I have ever known, but she lacks self confidence, and she would be anything but jealous even if she saw her husband or boyfriend screwing around in her face. Do you think that those who are self-confident can not be jealous? If jealousy is directly related to poor self-confidence (as you suggest) are there ways to predict the severity or control it? If it is a mental health issue, is there any chemical therapy available?

Nice and informative write-up as usual.