Marriage in Hiding

The reason this crap goes on in Islamic countries is because there are not enough opportunities for sexes to intermingle. Getting laid is important for mental and spiritual development. Sex was not meant to be disrespected, but enjoyed and treasured. There is no such thing as an ‘illegitimate’ child, as a child outside of marriage comes out of the same place, and same mechanism is involved in making one just as a child inside of marriage. Where’s the difference? Only in mind.

And there’s nothing wrong with not being married. If one cannot find a match, it is better to live by oneself than to be married to a total jerk.

`` In the Islamic world, there should be only one discrimination when it comes to marriage. A muslim female cannot marry a non- muslim man and a Muslim man can marry any muslim, christian or jewish woman. Who decides who wants to marry who? The ones getting married and no one else.``

so what else is new in the marriage world of Muslim male chauvinist pigs -- they can marry whoever they want wherever they want -- but the women are stuck with the home grown petulant peurile pigs.

.....of course bibi the Muslim woman is as good or even better than the Muslim male -- she must have the same choices the the Muslim males has-- and must have the right to exercise her choices in picking her life long mate EXACTLY the same way the Muslim male has. Period.

So to your question -- ``Who decides who wants to marry who?`` -- not Amma Jan nor Abba jan -- not Bhai Jan nor Apa Jan -- not Chucha Jan nor Chuchee Jan -- not MamooN Jan nor Mamanee Jan -- not Dada Jan nor Dadee Jan -- not Nana Jan nor Naanee Jan -- and by far not the family Booaa or the family Baba Jan...

....of course ONLY -- ``The ones getting married and no one else.``

Very nice gentle but firm piece of writing -- all power to you bibi -- take off your slavish collar of Hijab -- throw it on the maulvi face -- stand tall shoulder to shoulder in equality -- never put up with a domineering Muslim male chauvinist pig -- as a good Muslima shun him like you would shun a bad khanjir.

And don`t be afraid to fall in love -- `BEFORE` -- not `AFTER` -- you marry your love.

I think Islamic injunctions are quite clear about marriage with people of book; if one is to remain Muslim and give birth to legitimate children, then what is the point writing or reading these articles or get into an activism in this regard. I don`t think we have much of the choice here. We have to observe discipline and constraint.

Interesting read. I understand from your profile that you are from Pakistan, yet you focus on the middle east?

Also, are the stories you narrate factual? Just curious. I am sure there would be similar tales.