Still Looking!

Nice story Tahera. Adds a lighter side to a very disturbing methodology! I wonder though, how many girls later regret this critical outlook when people stop appearing at their doorstep. just an afterthought! I wonder how many of the selected ones live happily ever after. everything happens behind closed doors and in our culture doors are closed on the instituition of marriage from day one.
Well written, made me smile despite my "poetic concerns"

Regards
A

Nice story Tahera. Adds a lighter side to a very disturbing methodology! I wonder though, how many girls later regret this critical outlook when people stop appearing at their doorstep. just an afterthought! I wonder how many of the selected ones live happily ever after. everything happens behind closed doors and in our culture doors are closed on the instituition of marriage from day one.
Well written, made me smile despite my "poetic concerns"

Regards
A

I enjoyed your story telling. You have a lively funny voice. I like the fact that there is an unhappily married woman at the office who has captured the attention of Raamis. And it seems that the narrator, connects with Raamis so... nice setup for something interesting to happen. A suggestion for the dialog. Start a new paragraph every time someone speaks..so:

(new Para) I love you" said Jim.
(new Para) And I love clothes said Jane.

You can easily write a sequel to this story with some of the characters showing up again. The Aaloo paratha guy can show up again. You know like, youhve gone some where for chinese and he is sitting on some table near by. Make it really awkward and funny.

My last comment is to ignore all the idiots on Chowk who will try to politisize your funny story. Trust in the life that you see around you and keep writing.

Tahera:
Polishing the shoes Naaa...But iwill certainly make you breakfast i am single and my mom is looking for a nooh.

#1Jaya
While on individual basis this is unfortunate and horrible but look who is talkin 'THAT'
Apne gareban mein jhank Besharam ,Jhoote ,lutere wade ke kache Lol


"Indian Women and Violence" - A Bibliography

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Fall 1996
NOTE: This list of bibliographic references was complied from responses to a query about "violence against women in India," as they were sent to the H-Asia listserv. Some annotations as well as the contributor's email address are included.
See also "Three songs on women and violence" by Suman Chatterjee

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Agnes, Flavia. 1992. "Protecting women against violence. Review of a decade of Legislation, 1980-89," Economic and Political Weekly. 27 (17): ws 19-33. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]
Anagol-McGinn, Padma. "Sexual harassment in India : a case study of eve-teasing in historical perspective." In Rethinking sexual harassment. London; Boulder, Colo.: Pluto Press, 1994. [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Bhaji on the beach. [videorecording] Culver City, CA: Columbia TriStar Home Video [distributor], 1995. 1 videocassette (100 min.). Film about domestic violence in Indian community in Britain. [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Bhattacharjee, Anannya. "The Habit of Ex-Nomination: Nation, Woman and the Indian Immigrant Bourgeoisie," Public Culture. (Fall 1992) 5:1, p. 49. [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Bush, Diane Mitsch. "Women's Movements and State Policy Reform Aimed at Domestic Violence against Women: A Comparison of the Consequences of Movement Mobilization in the U.S. and India." Gender & society: official publication of Sociologists for Women in Society. December 1992. Volume 6, Number 4. p. 587-608. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Butler, William, 1818-1899. The land of the Veda: being personal reminiscences of India; its people, castes, thugs, and fakirs; its religions, mythology, principal monuments, palaces, and mausoleums. Edition: 5th ed. New York, Nelson & Phillips, 1873. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai, refais@rosnet.strose.edu]

Butler, Clementina. Mrs. William Butler; two empires and the Kingdom. New York: The Methodist book concern, 1929. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai, refais@rosnet.strose.edu]

Calman, Leslie J. Toward empowerment: women and movement politics in India. Boulder: Westview Press, 1992. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Chatterjee, Suman. "Three songs about women and violence." Translated by Sudipta Chatterjee, 1996. Click HERE.

Daly, Mary. Gyn/Ecology: the metaethics of radical feminism. Boston: Beacon Press, 1978. (Jana Everett is) Uncomfortable with the assertion (or argument which Mary Daly made) that Westerners put gender violence issues on the political agenda in India, overlooking the efforts of Indians. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu] See Lorde below.

Das, Veena. Critical events: an anthropological perspective on contemporary India. Delhi; New York: Oxford University Press, 1995. One of the essays gives an interesting perspective on rape and abduction of women during Partition, and of the fallacy of the State and NGOs to deal with the problem. [Reading suggested from Kathinka Frcystad, KATHINKA@prio.no]

Datar, Chhaya, ed. The Struggle against violence. Calcutta: Stree, 1993. Essays on anti rape campaign, campaign against sex determination tests. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Dyer, Helen S. Pandita Ramabai: the story of her life. New York, Chicago [etc.]: Fleming H. Revell company, [1900]. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai, srefai@juno.com]

Fuller, Marcus B., Mrs. The wrongs of Indian womanhood. New York: Revell [1900]. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai, refais@rosnet.strose.edu]

Hawley, John Stratton, ed. Sati, the blessing and the curse: the burning of wives in India. New York : Oxford University Press, 1993. A collection of essays on sati and the Roop Kanwar case. [Reading suggested by Laura Parsons, Laura.Parsons@harpercollins.com ]

Kelkar, Govind. "Violence Against Women: An Understanding of Responsibiity for their Lives," in Third world, second sex : women's struggles and national liberation ; third world women speak out, v.2. Compiled by Miranda Davies. London: Zed Press; Westport, Conn.: L. Hill, U.S. distributor, 1983-87. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Kishwar, Madhu and Ruth Vanita. "The Burning of Roop Kanwar." Race and Class. 30, 1 (1988). [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Kishwar, Mandu and Ruth Vanita. In search of answers: Indian women's voices from Manushi. London: Zed, 1984. Note: "This is a collection of articles from the first five years of Manushi, 1979-1983" - t.p. [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]. AND - One section of it deals specifically with women and violence. It was originally published by Zed Press in London, but has been reprinted in India. [Reading suggested from Gail Minault, gminault@utxvms.cc.utexas.edu]

Kumar, Radha. The history of doing: an illustrated account of movements for women's rights and feminism in India 1800-1990. New Delhi: Kali for Women, 1993. [Readings suggestion from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Kumar, Radha, "From Chipko to Sati: The Contemporary Indian Women's Movement," in Basu, Amrita, ed., The Challenge of Local Feminisms. Boulder: Westview Press, 1995, Chapter 2, pp. 58-86. [Reading suggested from Laura Parsons, laura.parsons@harpercollins.com ]

Lewis, Reina. Gendering Orientalism: race, feminity and representation. London; New York: Routledge, 1996. [Reading suggested from Saranjit Nijhar, S.Nijhar@queens-belfast.ac.uk]

Lorde, Audre. In This bridge called my back: writings by radical women of color. Editors: Cherrie Moraga, Gloria Anzaldua. New York: Kitchen Table, Women of Color Press, c1983. The best critique of Mary Daly that I have read. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Mani, Lata. "Contentious Traditions. The Debate on Sati in colonial India." In Recasting women: essays in colonial history. Edited by Kumkum Sangari, Sudesh Vaid. New Delhi: Kali for Women, 1989. p. 88-126. Draws attention to the ways gender violence was used in the discourses of colonialism and nationalism. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Mani, Lata. "Multiple Mediations: Feminist Scholarship in the Age of Multinational Reception." Feminist review. Summer 1990. Number 35, p. 24. Draws attention to the ways gender violence was used in the discourses of colonialism and nationalism. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Manushi. [Delhi, India: Samta] Vol. 1, no. 1 (Dec. 1978)- . (The articles in) the journal Manushi are very good on issues of women and violence, women and labor, and a variety of current concerns. [Reading suggested from Gail Minault, gminault@utxvms.cc.utexas.edu]

Mayo, Katherine, 1868?-1940. Mother India. New York, Harcourt, Brace [c1927]. (Some of) this (discussion) sounds to me like the revival of a very old debate, that between Katherine Mayo and Gandhi, that took place when Gandhi wrote about Mayo's book called `Mother India' that talked about the degraded state of Indian women and general prevalence of apathy to it. [Comments from Rajagopal Vakulabharanam, RVAKULAB@macc.wisc.edu]

Menon, Ritu Menon and Kamla Bhasin. "Recovery, Rupture, Resistance: Indian State and Abduction of Women during Partition," Economic and Political Weekly. 28 April 24, 1993. [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Nari Mukti Sangharsh Sammelan (1988: Patna, India). Women and struggle: a report of the Nari Mukti Sangharsh Sammelan, Patna, 1988. By Gail Omvedt, Chetna Gala, Govind Kelkar. New Delhi: Kali for Women, 1988. [Reading suggested from Frank Conlon, conlon@u.washington.edu]

Oldenburg, Veena Talwar. "Dowry Murders in India: A Preliminary Examination of the historical evidence," In Women's lives and public policy: the international experience. Edited by Meredeth Turshen and Briavel Holcomb; foreword by Charlotte Bunch. Westport, Conn.: Praeger, 1993. Veena Talwar Oldenburg has a suggestive essay on how colonialism contributed to an increase in the dowry burden in the 19th century. [Reading suggested from Jana Everett, jeverett@carbon.cudenver.edu]

Omvedt, Gail. We will smash this prison!.: Indian women in struggle. London: Zed Press, 1980. A firsthand account of the voices of working women from South Asia. [Reading suggested from Laxman D. Satya, lsatya@eagle.lhup.edu]

Ramabai Sarasvati, Pandita, 1858-1922. The high-caste Hindu woman. Edition: 3d ed. Philadelphia: [Press of the J. B. Rodgers printing co.], 1888. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai, refais@rosnet.strose.edu]

Refai, Shahid. American Women's Activism and Indian Women's Response, 1869-1922. Projected book. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai refais@rosnet.strose.edu]

Sen, Mala, 1947- . India's bandit queen: the true story of Phoolan Devi. Edition: Rev. and updated ed. London; San Francisco, Calif.: Pandora, 1995, 1991. And film "Bandit Queen." [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Storrow, Edward. Our sisters in India. New York: F.H. Revell, 1899. [Reading suggested from Shahid Refai, refais@rosnet.strose.edu]

Sunder Rajan, Rajeswari. Real and imagined women: gender, culture, and postcolonialism. London; New York: Routledge, 1993. [Reading suggested from Antoinette Burton, hiburton@jhuvms.hcf.jhu.edu]

Warder, Valerie. "The Gendered Subaltern at the Side of Sati." Humanity & society. 01 August 1995, v.19:no.3, p. 73. [Reading suggested from Philip McEldowney, pm9k@virginia.edu]

Weinberger-Thomas, Catherine. Cendres d'immortalit‚ : la cr‚mation des veuves en Inde. Paris: Seuil, 1996. Series: Librairie du XXe siècle. [Reading suggested from Philip McEldowney, pm9k@virginia.edu]



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Query on readings re: violence against women in India
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From: DELL@DRYCAS.CLUB.CC.CMU.EDU

I am teaching a course on Women and Violence on the undergraduate
level. The course will include women's responses to sexual
harassment, rape and domestic violence in the US and India. I
would welcome suggestions on readings.

Thank you,

Heather Dell
Duke University
Dept. of Cultural Anthropology
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This article only presents one sided perspective. What about the boy's feelings? :)

I'm surprised at the caliber of the social surroundings you are in, despite being apparently a working woman. Such situations are quite extraordinary.

Tahera,

As a pakistani woman get rid of taht pretensions as a modern imancipated woman seeking a role for oneself in the paki society. Have a look at the reality around you so that you can live a life in pakistan.

Read about the hoodood ordinance, read about muktaran mai case and realise that they were not instances of corruption by the authporities, they were the laws of the country.

Read about honor killing and find out why the killers of Samia Sarwar were never charged even though the killers were know,

Take it from me, Tahera, in pakistan honour killing is legal and do not become another statistic.

Enlarge this post, frame it and keep it in a place where you can read it every day.