Fathers and Daughters

Dania --

These are complicated times, or perhaps since always we've been trained to act like brutal animals with no reign over our impulses.
I hear what you said, and I know its not easy to say all this, this piece was written on very strange blank areas, and I understand it could speak to people who have known this in different ways.
You have to be sensitive to the other, when he reads, when he responds.
But there's no way to teach people this anymore, since in school we are taught how to get grades that can kill everyone else. We excel.

I saw that this guy's response bothered you, and your second response was far more quiet than the first.

I suppose one day we will all quieten down. and there's nothing i can do about it.

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Ejaz, Humera,

Thank you. I know you know.

معرآج

Peace.

معرآج

Re: # 42

... which to me seems a little erratic/strange to tell you the truth ... anyhow, none of my business .... I'll make myself scarce and won't be bothering you again

Re: # 41

.... though allow me to apologise if I caused offence somehow ... you reacted twice to the post in question but very differently on the two occasions

take care

Re: # 40

I am not trying to "equate" with anyone/thing .... I merely made an initial observation, based on the title of your article ... and wrote my personal take on it ... the rest just followed/evolved from others' posts

yeah that's what I was saying, forget it. This is too complicated.

I'm leaving. Its been a long day.

معرآج

Re: # 38

as indicated by the name "dania" as the addressee ... it was a response to HER post and NOT your write up

I meant this response:

dania

suffice to say that overhearing a conversation between my seven year old and her school friend .... her describing me as her 'bestest' friend in the whole world ... I don't think I need any other form of 'father-daughter communication' to validate our relashionship!

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You're trying to equate it with a lady whose father passed away a few years ago. Death complicates things. Wouldn't you agree? how do you 'validate' that communication?
Does it stop? This is another question, for another time.

Everybody has their own experiences, if you don't that's great.


معرآج

Re: # 36

huh????!!

I'm also talking about a time Cheema, than the things at hand were more than puppets, toy-shows, and trips to wonderland.

and the 'got to make it work' yeah I got it covered in my article.

How you have made these leaps and bounds, and mixing someone relationship to a father that passed away, with your silly notions of "Im a father." Get over it.

Grow up. You're gonna need to. If you want to teach your daughter how to do so.

: )
Smiling angelically**

daughters do that very well too, you know. : )

معرآج

Cheema, whatever works for you man. I hope you guys get an easy ride. For me it was tough and 'real.'

Though there's no doubt that your dad's your first hero, when you're a little girl. And thats cool too. I don't know what you're so angry about. she's just 7. Relax. get ready..its gonna be some ride.

معرآج

Yes and they know the art of getting their puppy stuff through. When I tease them I call them Blackmailers. The reply is always apt. 'tou aap na karain'. And then the old tree with its freckled trunk just bends.

Re: # 32; ijaz sahib

I am often told that 'she' has me wrapped around her little finger! that's what I was referring to .... daughters do tend to have that 'knack'!

Re: 31:

thanks chalta mian

Cheema,
Re: # 16
'I haven't quite got to your stage but observe with interest the little schemes and manipulations etc gradually progressing into an artform in its own right! .... I only hope it gets better though don't hold my breath ....'

I do not understand what you are implying cause a statement can have thousand meanings.

Great words akcheema....

Re: # 25; Fatima

it is not about 'hero-worship' or "my dad is bigger than yours" what I was referring to ..... it is more about interaction, an atmosphere of mutual understanding and respect and also having stacks of fun together which is important .... at a one to one level (regardless of age) ... eventually it becomes more and more about friendship (the genetic link is a given anyhow ... it is whatever more it could become over the years)

... many of the posts here allude to "an unspoken contract" or some other rubbish ... it is all a cop out .... relationships (regardless of their nature) need constant hardwork and effort and can't just be taken for granted ... otherwise it all becomes a 'necessity of circumstances and convenience' rather than a fulfilling experience in a true sense ... and it HAS to be more than just what societal expectations dictate/demand of us .... I know it doesn't sound all that "poetic" but reality and imagination have always been two different domains! (alas)