What Happened To Tania?

Congrats to CJI for bearding the Lion in its Den!

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/CJI_Balakrishnan_admits_to_misuse_of_ dowry_laws/articleshow/4057825.cms

While it is hardly unusual for the higher judiciary to periodically decry the growing 'gross misuse of divorce laws' in India ( one calling it 'legal terrorism'), it shows a certain class of Chief Justice K G Balakrishnan on Saturday, to speak thus, in yet another anti-male propaganda meet organised by the NCW. He has also made it clear that the misuse was one of the motives necessitating the recent amendments to the CrPC. ( IPC 498a is one of the main reasons for ELDERLY ABUSE in India according to WHO )

However, the higher judiciary will still be accused of hypocrisy/helplessness/misandry, unless it answers the following questions :

1.) Why are divorces being allowed to be transformed into 'criminal cases' against the husband, with the primary intent of money-making by the lower judiciary and police, while they have clogged up most courts in India today?

2.) Why are 'divorce cases' allowed to drag on for ages, thus ruining marital and career progress of many a bright youngster in India today? ( Even now, lawyers are protesting the amendments in CrPC - which will rob them of their livelihood! )

The media too needs to be congratulated on creating awareness of such statements regarding misuse of these laws. But it continues its habitual stereotyping of males, ( due to the money pressure from the advertising sponsors, eager to woo the female consumer? ).

1.) It has to stop calling these laws as 'Dowry Laws', since they are primarily used to extort money from the husband at *Divorce*, and have NOT decreased the incidence of dowry one bit ( which incidentally, will happen only when females are given their due share of the inheritance by their own family ).

2.) It has to take into account, the increasing divorce rates in the country,( initiated 90% by the female ), primarily due to the lure of alimony. These divorces are acrimonious by nature, and are sought to be taken financial advantage off, by rich feminist groups, using the media to bad-mouth husbands.


WAKE UP MALES! SPEAK UP!

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"... I think...change is a great idea ... I volunteer zee..., ...truly, and tahir ... unless it's already been done. Look how well it has worked for tahmed."

Stutter-2,
You're muttering again; oops you're verbal junk got filtered again! I swear THEY (the THEY at ChowQ) are showing good sense!

So something sweet (not that Q-kalima please).

Thanks Majumdar, Zeena and AuroraBorealis for some kind and some tough critiques.
Majumdar sahib I have not come across with Adam Khan sahib’s story but I will sure ‘google’ it.

Aurora Borealis Sahib what I wanted to convey I mentioned already. You are right that not just the people with inferiority complexes find ‘homosexuals’ repulsive and punishable but this character of ‘Mr. Chandler’ that I created was not just a person with low self esteem but a traditionalist, conservative also. And the bonding between the characters of ‘Tania’ and ‘Brian’ was not just because they were ‘uncomfortable’ in their own skin but that strange behavior just made them even more closer and alienated to rest of the world. Aurora sahib I don’t know about Hitler as I am not very well informed of his personality and psychology.

About the statistics I think its easily available one net, lots of information is available there.
Let’s be very clear that fictional stories are based, drawn or inspired from real events, real life characters but never ‘tell it like it’ or otherwise its not a fiction. Writers use their imagination to develop a character out of real life, paint the existing lines into a new sketch that could attract readers. And I think I did draw readers to it and hooked them till the end of it and I am satisfied with that. The story of ‘sex change operation’ is real. The only difference was that it was the guy, a top medical student in USA born in a very affluent family of two doctors’ parents.

And Zeena dear why are you referring this fictional story as some ‘informative article’ about ‘homosexuality’. Moreover I did study about this phenomenon during my medical studies course and before developing this character I did my research to avoid making it completely ‘phony’ and ‘unreal’.

The story did sound real that's why I guess it compelled readers to think about it and left many questions unanswered for readers imagination. All your comments I therefore take as my 'compliemnts'. Thank you once again.

Nikhat Riaz

Nice story!!! Reminds me of Adam Khan sahib's story of the returnee Pathan's son and the Mullah.

Regards

Re: # 23 AuroraBorealis ji

Well said!!!
Ditto!!!

"His inferiority complexes make him abhor all kind of imperfections."

Did you get that idea from the example of Hitler who called for the annhiliation of anyone who he deemed imperfect just cuz he himself was suffering from a physical imperfection? I am just curious.

Also, I am not sure if this is what you are trying to convey in this story but there are many physically perfect people who abhor homosexuals and transgenders. It has nothing to do with one's inferiority complex but rather the pre-defined cultural and religious norms.

Re: # 19 Nikhat Riaz ji
Surely you brought a unique idea, but, sexuality is a very complex matter.

I did not take your article as linked with (homosexuality). Homosexuality has got nothing to do with undergoing some sorts of surgery to change one's appearance.

Homosexuality in it's purest sense is to be happy and to be comfortable with your own gender as female or male and that's the reason it is called homosexuality.

Once you determine that you don't belong to this assigned gender that you got originially and try to change your gender physically to incorporate your mental gender with your physical one, you automatically become heterosexual.

Then again, there're homo-homos and hetero- homos. To be one nobody needs to undergo surgery.

There is a huge difference between trans-genders and trans-sexuals. Both are absolutely not linked with homosexuality.

I request you to educate yourself on the mentioned topic prior to writing any article because readers would ask you some tough questions....
Yes, surgeries are being done even in underdeveloped countries for those who are either ambiguous physically or mentally about their gender....Nothing to do with homosexuality.
Take care.

"Your statement that "less than one percent feel uncomfortable in their bodies" is not factually true. This phenomenon and 'sex change operation' is rampant in many developed societies."

Actually Nikhat your statement that sex change is RAMPANT is many developed societies is not factually true either. Can you give me any stats as to how many people go through with the sex change surgery?

Though it's true that many people are uncomfortable with their gender, we have got lots of people with different ways to deal with that so we have got androgynes, cross-dressers, transvestites, genderqueer and the list goes on. When it comes to getting surgery to completey change one's gender, it is true that very few people go through with that option for the following reasons:

1) Cost
2) Risk factors associated with the surgery and the health care and ongoing therapy they have to take throughout their lives after the surgery.
3) Many few surgeons are willing to perform sex reassignment surgeries.

So really just because the media makes hundred different shows on this subject doesnt mean that it is "rampant" in the society.

Another thing is that I almost felt that the thing that united Brian and Tania was the fact that they were both unhappy in their natural gender. I had a hard time with this notion that people would actually bond because of that commonality.

However, I want to mention again that I did like your story quite a while and the idea that lots of people end up lying to their parents and their loved ones because of the so called "norms" of the society.

So good work. Thanks for sharing this story.

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Thanks every one for taking time to read this story and commenting on it. I loved all your comments. The fun part here on this web site is that like a theatre performance one gets the quick response from readers…the ‘boohoos’ and the ‘thumbs up’.

Well this is a fiction but not all together. Not entirely mine ‘flight of imagination’. The sex change operation part was inspired from the real story I came across. But what I failed to convey to the readers was the main idea that “we should accept the world, the life as it is…perfect or imperfect, beautiful or ugly. That beauty is in diversity and beauty is deep�.
It seems that many people got stuck with the ‘homosexuality’ stuff which was brought in for the purpose of expressing the ‘imperfection within perfection’. That the traditionalist father just rejects anything that is deviation of from the set norms of society. His inferiority complexes make him abhor all kind of imperfections. Therefore, for the extraordinary genius child of the modern age who was born with some hidden abnormal traits it was the state of total confusion of comprehension and continuous internal dilemma and emotional trauma.

But thank u all. And AuroraBorealis the girl and her friend both did go for the surgery. Your statement that "less than one percent feel uncomfortable in their bodies" is not factually true. This phenomenon and 'sex change operation' is rampant in many developed societies.

Nikhat Riaz

I like this story except that the ending is quite implausible. It would have been made a far better story if only the daughter would have wanted to go through with the surgery or maybe if the daughter would have been gay. Finding another guy who wants to be a girl, I mean there is like less than 1% people who feel uncomfortable in their bodies and among them less than 50% go through with the surgery given the cost...

Anyways, I liked the beginning and some of the dialogues in the story...but the ending kinda ruined it for me..

parthaab #16 the male gender is hopelessly outnumbered. at least, it wishes it was. many dream of being the only male in an island full of the enemy gender. being forced to surrender to the enemy gender.

PS: what would life be without the enemy gender?? think about it.

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There cannot be smoke without any fire.

And I have nt seen anyone debating the two simple sentences I had written.

" Nikhat IS female. And see her previous article and you will see the feminist there too. "

What IS happening to the male gender?

WAKE UP MALES! SPEAK UP!

Parthaab, you might have something in common with the author..in one of her previous articles, she seemed to hint at an association between a lack of hijab and rape.

hey I am a sprightly young man full of vigour, and no I donot have a stash of manna, or nectar to keep me young!