Cursed With Scum

Javed I got 5 words for you .... GROW UP (&) GET A LIFE! This is the most wretchedly pathetic story. And yet you still dwell on it!

First kisses? Let me tell you something. You only get better with practice at frenching. And it sounds like you`re outta practice.

Moral : You need to go out and get some.

Whats really pathetic i suppose is the fact that you weren`t even really attracted to her. That just makes you more of a LOSER, for doing it in the first place, and much more so for dwelling on it years afterwards. Hokw old are you

now anyway?

Re: Javed Memon

I have to second what Omar said.

My friend, it is time you moved beyond the aura of the first kiss. From your article I take it that you`re still in high school and if that is the case, there will plenty of other chances.

On the sunny side of the street, this sounded more like an infatuation than true love. Trust me Javed, you are not a loser or scum for asking one last kiss and I will tell you a little secert, after a few years a kiss will still be a kiss and you`ll be lucky if you even remembered their names (as if that matters).

you are entitled to your own opinion, but everything inside me--my morals, and my brain tell me that I won`t kiss another woman till I`m married. That`s a promise. I have my reasons.

Javed

Editors,

I`m sorry but do we have to be subjected to such pre-pubescent sophmoric drivel? An article about feeling guilty about kissing a girl? Are you guys that hard up for new material?

Javed

Go get some first, then worry about how it screws with your head.

Javed,

Sorry about the loser comment, didn`t realize you were 16-17 yrs old. It would definitely apply if you were in college/university, but was perhaps inappropriate for your age, such a YUCKY experience, huh ! :)

My appologies.

OMAR

Even if I was in college, I`d probably say the same thing, these are my beliefs, bash them all you want, they won`t change. Ahh So its pre pubescent drivel? What if i said i was actually in my late 20`s, married, and still regret what i did back then? then what would you say? Get some? Sorry I`m not a dog. I`d like to devote myself to one person. Yes, sometimes what i write is not my best, but everyone does that. I write alot, and if you think this is bad/stupid compared to my last one, thats fine, i don`t really think its well written either. ... Take care

Javed

Today, with the publication of ‘Cursed with Scum’, literacy, at chowk, is dead.

It`s difficult to write about such topics. But I admit, I really enjoyed reading this article. Brought back some memories.

Great peace of work!

Javed/Hijabman:

Re:YOUR REASONS (Reply #3)! And just what might they be? Did you by any chance contract some version of a Herpes Simplex cold sore? :)

Sorry man, but you crack me up. Kissing well is a high form of art to me, and while kissing someone for whom you posess both love and affection is great, its almost just as nice/good when all you possess is LUST as well. And, its shall we say, even EXPECTED by a fair number of desi chicks that you`ll be experienced in a few depts BEFORE you get married (cause getting experience with other girls/womyn after marriage would be cheating:). It just didn`t occur to me that there is anything wrong with kissing someone if you both enjoy it. Extra/pre-marital Sex, maybe, if you`re religiously inclined, but kissing!!! Where`s the sin in that! Don`t follow the philosophy that if its pleasurable, it must be sinful. Thats just an excuse for both denial of self-gratification and self-imposed mental torture. Don`t go down that path, or your psychiatric bills in later years could well outweight the spiritual benefits (dubious as they maybe) of abstinence.

Javed -

Don`t beat yourself up so much. I think once you`re a little older you`ll realize that experience is a good thing. Your future wife will no doubt thank her stars and agree.

Javed

I found your article really interesting, and funny. And I am really disappointed that all that the ``grown-ups`` on Chowk have to say is ``go out and get it``. Hope you won`t let such immature responces get to you. Keep writing.

Sadaf

Re : Post #6

Javed,

Your 2 posts thus far, and the article itself (expressing regrets over nothing), leave me with the irresistable visualization of YOU as a young milk maid carrying a pail to the pasture, on her way to milk the cows, having been ravished against her will along the way, and having enjoyed it though she put up a token resistence of course, and now at confession repenting her sins to the local pastor on a Sunday after a moving service.

HALLELUJUH!!!! PRAISE BE UNTO THE LORD!!! I have sinned and am now redeemed.

AMEEN!!!

Javed (Cont`d)

A very chaste (virginal), unsullied, untouched, modest young milksop ... (a young wench)...:)

Javed : A VIRTUOUS Young milksop ...

refreshing to read a piece from a younger perspective. the tone is of a youthful, inexperienced and horny hanif kureishi (hmmm...horny hanif kureishi...is that redundant?)

i`d add that it`s not just pakis who play truth or dare to cop a feel.

Omar, bad form stud, true players never kiss and tell.

Just read your replies to other posts, Javed. Hm...

Well, while i sympathize with you, and realize that it`s probably rather annoying to have people telling you that your age is showing, perhaps you should accept that to a large extent it is. That`s not necessarily a bad thing. You`re in high school, writing about a high school experience - that`s perfectly valid - and while i`m sure that right now you feel adamant about some things, don`t assume what you will feel the same way in years to come.

First you say that ``even if you were in college`` you`d feel the same way about your relationship. I know you think you know that, but you don`t know that, no more than i know...:) If you get what i mean. People`s views evolve constantly - notice i don`t say `change,` because it`s possible you may still regret this relationship when you`re older. But do give yourself more credit for being a person who can grow, if in no other way than to look back at yourself and not call yourself `scum` and `disgusting` for a perfectly normal incident.

Also, don`t try to inflate your sentiments by asking how people would react to your article if you were ``in your late 20s and married.`` You`re not in your late 20s, and you`re not married, and whether you accept it or not, it shows.