SoulMate

this figment of imagination has been argued many times, and category of human being are found to produce better result with below mentioned belief.
1. soul mates are your wives , undisputably if you are theirs,soul mate in your friends arm is his wife not your ,one is pitiful if eyeing friend`s soul mate and have a misconception .

2. life can be satifying and enchanting if one believes that whatever they posses,is the pure gift of nature,so will be thankful til the rest but if practised otherwise then may remain in total despair and emptiness til the end of relationship.

3. what is the solution to the condition,`` i am the soul mate of my spouse ,but my soul mate is some one else.?

I understand how u feel. I believe in this and have experienced this.
Most soul mates..are usually taken away from you...and you have to live on...
Its hard and its very painful. But what i remeber that keeps me from dissolving in pain is that Nothing is in our Control..Its up there where decisions r made...as a muslim i have held onto the belief that Allah knows best.

Be strong and Patient.

Peace

#22 - JagDeCat,

It can be argued for and against in many ways, and in a philosophically justifiable way, that a soulmate is someone one marries or does not marry.

I believe in the fetching completion of phenomena; The emergence of foam amid approaching and receding waves at shores and the sound they create grants them sanctity to exist; they are complete.

Just as love is not complete if it is not reciprocated. Unrequited love is not complete simply because it does not let one transcend beyond a certain limit of maturity of feeling, thought, emotion; It is unrequited, one way, not a shared willingness. The greater and more significant spiritual beauty of love is evoked and invoked when both sides are unreservedly and with an unrestricted self consciously at the giving and understanding end of this bond.

Love is also not complete if the concerned lovers do not explore the sensual depths of each other`s being for during this one experiences the wholesomeness of one`s humanity and certifies it, santifies it. This is love for during this experience, one loses track of where the tacit boundaries of the existence of one of them ends and the same of the other begins.

Marriage is the bond to justify love, whether one may love another before or after getting married. Marriage is sacred, it is an act of worship, it is liberty of love in its purest form.

God is the proceator of nature to work for the perfection of and for itself. And we as humans can not understand it but only can identify it; We know how a tree forms from out of a seed, but we do not know why; We know how a baby is formed and given birth do, but we do not know why; We know how salmons travel long distances to die at the place they were born at, but we do not know why. We know how a human mother loves its young, and ferociously cares for them, but we do not know why.

It is God who wills that marriage be justified for the called-for and necessary and pure evolution of love. A soulmate is God`s gift to a woman in the shape of a husband and to a man in the shape of a wife. One may readily find a deeply loving and understanding person in one`s spouse either spontaneously or wish to develop and keep it and carry it to eternity. It may take time, but in either way he/she will get his/her wish if even but and/or alas with the passage of time. But by the grace of God, it exists, it is here, and it is yours.

Peace !

JDC sorry dint get much time to get back n comment on yr piece.
must add here tht i like yr style...but to tell u the truth..evn though itwz touchy..this dint felt much like yr wrk!
..but..
ne way, keep up the goods work.

p.s. i wz just wundering..on the subject/possibility of Negative soul mates.. is there ne seperate dabbba category for tht?

JDC sorry dint get much time to get back n comment on yr piece.
must add here tht i like yr style...but to tell u the truth..evn though itwz touchy..this dint felt much like yr wrk!
..but..
ne way, keep up the goods work.

p.s. i wz just wundering..on the subject/possibility of Negative soul mates.. is there ne seperate dabbba category for tht?

okay...

First of all, thank you all those who decided to comment on my essay. I`m really honoured.

There were a few things which i thought i`d clarify....

1. This never happened to me, personally. This girl is just a figment of my imagination. But i guess my writing prowess isn`t that bad, if people actually believed i underwent this. :)

2. Soul mate doesn`t necessarily mean the person you marry. If you marry your soulmate, that`s an ideal heaven, but many times in life, you`ll find out that the one person in this world who really completes you, is never yours to begin with. Because of some reason or another, she`s taken away. C`est la vida est. That`s life.

3. Sometimes even best friends are not aware of things that happen in your life. Best friend doesn`t mean people who you`ve spent over a decade with. It can be someone you`ve met recently but just get along so well together, that they`re your best friend in that time period.

My writings are what i call `Introspective` writings. They try and analyze what people go through during the most toughest times. If anyone wants to read more on them, try my blog: www.20six.co.uk/umairmohsin

and please remember, these are all figments of my imagination. Nothing more.

kamlani jee... atleast respect the poor guy`s emotions if not his writing prowess...

Umair,

Just a few clarifications here that I need. She was your `soulmate` 10 years ago yet your best friend doesn`t know about her? So he became your friend after you broke up with her and never saw her again. Then he introduced you to her (on his arm no less) at a party. Tough luck my friend.

I was trying REAL hard to remind myself that a guy had written this piece.

Irfan.

PS: Get over yourself and move on.

Well well i understand what you wrote but it gave me goosebumps for i havent come across her:/

Umair Jee,

``Koi kaisey batayey keh woh tanha kyun hai
Woh jo apna tha wohi aaj kisi ka kyun hai,
yehi dunya hai to phir aisi yeh dunya kyun hai,
Yehi hota hai to phir aisa hi hota kyun hai``


Koi pursa, koi hamdardi iss ehsas e zayan ke samney kaafi nahin hai, magar phir bhi do lafz tasalli key ager kaam aatey hon to meri taraf sey kabool karein. Humarey dard aur ishq ki aazmaish yehi hai keh zakhm poori tarha bharrey nahin, werna mohabbat kya hui. Ager kisi ko paaney ya khoney sey hi takmeel e ishq hota to phir dunya ka har insaan kam se kam eik pakeeza mohabbat sey ashana hota. Aap iss baat pe shukr ada karein keh aap donon ko kuch manoos lamhe mil gaye aur aap ne jaan liya keh jo shaks aap ke liye banaya gaya tha woh kaisa tha, werna hazaron insaan iss khoj mein umer guzartey hain, aur pyar mohabbat ko afsanon aur kahanion ki baatein keh ke dil ko thapak daitay hain.

I think you are one of the lucky people who have been blessed with an insight into the wonderful world of love. Keep smiling.

Regards,

A

Umair Jee,

``Koi kaisey batayey keh woh tanha kyun hai
Woh jo apna tha wohi aaj kisi ka kyun hai,
yehi dunya hai to phir aisi yeh dunya kyun hai,
Yehi hota hai to phir aisa hi hota kyun hai``


Koi pursa, koi hamdardi iss ehsas e zayan ke samney kaafi nahin hai, magar phir bhi do lafz tasalli key ager kaam aatey hon to meri taraf sey kabool karein. Humarey dard aur ishq ki aazmaish yehi hai keh zakhm poori tarha bharrey nahin, werna mohabbat kya hui. Ager kisi ko paaney ya khoney sey hi takmeel e ishq hota to phir dunya ka har insaan kam se kam eik pakeeza mohabbat sey ashana hota. Aap iss baat pe shukr ada karein keh aap donon ko kuch manoos lamhe mil gaye aur aap ne jaan liya keh jo shaks aap ke liye banaya gaya tha woh kaisa tha, werna hazaron insaan iss khoj mein umer guzartey hain, aur pyar mohabbat ko afsanon aur kahanion ki baatein keh ke dil ko thapak daitay hain.

I think you are one of the lucky people who have been blessed with an insight into the wonderful world of love. Keep smiling.

Regards,

A

Generally speaking, emotional attachments arnt `that` important for goraz. A believe on `Just do it` and then `Ask for more` helps.

Re:samankhan#13

Well said!! No one can foget their first love. When you fall in love for the first time, it feels like you are on some kind of a drug. Sometimes I wonder about the goras/goris in the west who have 10-15 relationships, what do they have to offer to that 15th person who enters their life? Can you even fall in love with so many people?

So your best friend walked away with the girl you fancied and 10 years hence there are tears on the keyboard as you sob away while typing this (badly written!) piece....now there is a loser if there ever was one!

Guess that`s why they say, first love never dies...

amit #*

...hehehhe....

i will just repeat a double negative classic cliche...`you don`t know nothing`...with minor addition of `yet`

;)

t

Umair Mohsin,

Your soulmate is someone you will get married to. How you`ll come across her, meet her, and marry her is a mystery like so many of the other mysteries that defy human reason. But be sure that if you will to be with that now unknown her, wish for it deep enough. And one day she will appear.

Peace!

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Re:temporal #7

Ok, yaar. I will qualify it with ``based on my limited experience``. But come on, lets be real here. I know that married couples can be happy, very happy together. But how can you have romantic love when you are living with that person for years and years? It is physically impossible!!

See this is the problem with our society, our greatest evils is the fact that we`re just not romantic. There is no beliefe in passion to light up ones soul, there`s no interest in loving another human bein- its a pathetic state of affairs.

amit:

Have you ever heard of any married couple being in romantic love?

if you don`t mind sir, this reminds me of a vain attempt to paint a 20x30` canvas with a single broken straw...

...now...

...had you qualified this broad stroke with some modest phrase like `in my 20-30-40-50 year`s experience`... i would have left this keyboard alone;)

rgds,

t

``What a tangled web we weave, when we first practice to deceive.``
I know somewhere in my mind all the time while im spending with her that ``what if she is gone as she is not still mine(marriage or whatever)`` so theres always some red LED in dark thoughtful mind that she is the ONE but ``not mine yet, not yet``.

Re:MBZ #3

Sirjee, marriage is the end of all romance, let alone having soul mates :-). True lovers like Romeo Juliet, Heer Ranjha, Laila Majnu etc all died without getting married. That is why their love is immortal. Once you are married you can lead a happy but ordinary life. Have you ever heard of any married couple being in romantic love? The passion cools down after 1 year and everything becomes normal.

my friend u r very true. the universal powers are cruel enough that who you think to be perfect for you does not end up with you.
regards to all
Bilal

hmm...
I have had more sole mates then soul mates...

chotay baara numbur ki jooti laana

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Umair,

You will certainly appreciate that famous song from a Dev Anand movie -

Jeevan ke safar mein raahi
Milte hain bichar jaane ko
Aur de jaate hain yaadein
Tanhai mein tarpane ko....

My friend, don`t take life too seriously. Take it easy.