Advantage, Men

nice article sameena, most of us have undergone such things and i m glad u had the nerve to put it in writing. and that too in such an interesting way. the shoe incident made me smile. i went thru similar experience when i went to buy a punjabi jutti.

Re: # 50

You are wrong. Believe me.

#49 “Burpinder”
[What are you trying to say? I don`t have times for silly word games.]

You know EXACTLY what I am trying to say (and I am sure so does 99 percent of the chowk crowd, whose intelligence level is often held at such great discount by some people). As far as time for “silly word games”, I do believe you certainly “invest” enough time in “silly word games”, heck perhaps even in silly pictures the likes of which are seldom seen around here. (I could be wrong, of course, but I kind of doubt it! (I wonder when I last herd that before.))

Nothing personal, I dislike fake, that’s all!

Re: # 46

What are you trying to say? I don`t have times for silly word games.

Re: # 47
What the F***!

:) You are a sweet little one! Very rarely does on get to read innocence published in its true form.

Dear “Burpinder”:

I must say that I am so thoroughly impressed with your detailed understanding of “issues” and your perseverance and persistence in continuing to “highlight” them (in your comparatively “short” stay at this web site) that I sometimes feel your “uncle” may be concerned that you are devoting more time to the internet and doing scant justice to all those poor defective motor cycles that you are supposed to be “fixing”. In fact, I could have sworn that there is a very familiar echo (which appears to go on and on) to your words.

I could be wrong, of course. I have been “wrong” many times before, again and again!

Sincerely,
BeeJay.

Most tailors hold the tape in the center over the breasts - not right on the nipple. - the measurement should come out the same.

saman:

don`t blame you for staying away from here! jeez...what is the term? ...retentive?

fail to understand why some want to tear to shreds a light hearted piece...my not for humour impaired comment has unwittingly assumed premonitory proportion!...maybe i should polish that crystal ball and change the profession;)...send in your queries folks..visa, mc, ax accepted;)

lve

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Now why would you be needing a pack of condoms, dear girl!

Re: # 30

Excellent post.

``Your light touch is being seen as open season for giving vent to repressed thoughts.``
*Exactly. When a woman says ``Boys will be boys``, you can almost bet that they will.

``Most of them found it hilarious, so what is this about “not for the humour-impaired”? I suppose for some people a woman saying such things gives them ideas about potential perverse “career opportunities”. Did you imagine such a fallout? My guess is No.``
* That`s my guess too. The writer seems immature and, frankly, not that funny either. I`ve read funnier on chowk and elsewhere.

What Sameena has to remember is that self-deprecating is funny, self-debasing is plain offensive.

Advantage, Men?!?!?!?!

Well, the way Sameena Sahibah used the men working their jobs, it rather looks like women have alot of advantage. Same sort of behaviour if shown to the women salesmen, a rarity in our country, would be called sexual discrimination by women activist! The reason women dont progress in our country is due to the same women that ride the top of the food chain!

Poor show, Miss/Misses Sameena!

#34 FV

(Aap shayad mujhe sharminda karne ki koshish kar rahin hain, lekin woh to (jaisa ki aap shayad janti hain) namumkin hai!)

I do understand (and I’m sure so does most of this crowd) that sexual exploitation of women is a serious problem and through articles like this, there is some danger of that getting trivialized. (I personally think that’s not going to happen with this article and with this crowd. Most people’s attitudes are already hardened (whichever way) and this one article won’t do anything to affect them.)

Also, the reality is that women in general are more empowered now. They certainly are (or should be) in a stronger position to deal with unwanted attention (or “perversion”, which could be considered a subjective word) with all their might (as one interactor claims to have done, by kicking that salesman in his chest).

If the victim were at an unquestioned disadvantage (for example, if it were a child (and I am convinced a lot more of that stuff happens to children than anybody dares to acknowledge)) nobody would laugh!

Anyway, when are you writing YOUR next funny piece (and I mean funny for funny’s sake, not as in irony/sarcasm or for promoting a larger cause/purpose)? By the way, I think guns should be considered outdated tools of violence used by morons who can not solve the problems of the world by using simple, honest words!

Also (and this in not said in humor), I am very deeply honored that you still remember my very first post on the Chowk site. Needless to say, I stand by every word of it. But probably that’s not new information for anybody. I could go into it at considerable length, were it necessary.

Notes:
[“…enjoy his 5 seconds …” a bit curious. How did you know his state? And were you keeping count? ]
And was she carrying a stop-watch?

[When I was in Karachi a certain male acquaintance wanted us … I think the ‘respectable’ gentleman was even more perverse.]
I think you have some weird acquaintances. But then, those acquaintances may turn around and say the same of you (for different reasons, of course (or at least, I assume)).

Re: # 27

[I never used to smoke in my office. I used to go in the adjacent computer room to to have a smoke. ]

Why should a woman inhale the cancerous elements ? How very impolite of you! Do you realize that as a grown-up you have certain responsibilities to your surroundings? At least appreciate someone who stood up for herself. Just like you don`t believe in smoking in your office, she must have an aversion to smoke as well. Whether she stated her matter in an emotional manner or a professional manner, in my opinion you need to learn how to manage people without displaying your feudal mannerisms.

Re: # 30

I found your post more interesting than the article itself.

Malik99 # 28

I told you a true story. I used the word `in general` and not all the women.

Off course, there are plenty of dumb men. May be more. But the women tend to expect a greater allowance for their inefficiency.

I have worked a lot among women employees in Air Line. Somehow, the Eastern women (not all) do not have a concept of ``just friendship`` . Our society also does not accept such a concept easily.

Getting a little intimate in the East, women (IN GENERAL) invariably expect this to lead towards a marriage. I have seen numerous examples where the initial green signal from the woman became an albatross in the neck of man - ruining the peace of the family as well. Sex is straightaway considered as a natural lead towards marriage.

This is not so in the West - at least not to that intensity. Obviously, women do not like to share men in almost all cultures - only the degree of reaction varies.

nhk