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Window Shopping

Maria Amir June 18, 2007

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#3 Posted by maryamp on August 17, 2007 11:56:19 am
Why hello, stranger! :)
There are worse prisons than words
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#2 Posted by nabeel.khan on June 24, 2007 3:06:53 am
Maria:

Ejaz rightly pointed out that it can be a pain for men as well. For someone who lives in a family with pre-dominantly boys that grew into men i have had the fortune (or misfortune) of going for window browsing

The act of acceptance maybe rejoiced however rejection seems like the girl was not worth it for god knows what reason. This can prove to be a terrible problem doubly for the potential match victim since she has first to swallow this bitter pill herself and then of course there is the plethora of aunties and mohalla vallies that have their say in the complete bargaining deal.

However, considering the limited mingling that boys and girls are allowed in this society and everything from going out with friends would be viewed with scorn. In case of such limited inter-minglings.. the parents have to inevitably rely on personalized relationships to view a reasonable match. This often turns ugly however although i would agree with the act being at times evil to say the least.. your article should have posited some alternatives.. considering the society we live in what should work out for us!
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#1 Posted by ejazharoon on June 19, 2007 12:14:27 pm
Maria:

It is frustrating from a guy`s perspective too - I recall a dozen or so years ago going to these ``tea parties`` and being asked how much money I made etc. The real killer was the ``Bad Istikhara``, which I believe was a polite way of saying you`re not good enough (or just too wierd!). Hopefully in 20 years time when my wife and I force Adam (our son) to go to these tea parties I will be able to cut through the bull and just get him to hang out with the lady and make up his own mind.
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