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*speechless*

hmm....interesting piece...
thats what I think as well... what if I get committed and a better one turns up at the next corner...!!
(Although WHENEVER(which is quite frequently) I hav a crush, I can swear by my life that this is the one....!)

thats how everyone feels i guess.........everybody has unfulfilled dreams n desires and the worst part is u cant really do much about it.......life goes on i guess n all v r left with are regrets and many what-ifs and kash aisa hota n all...........life`s like that, hai na?

Niyat e shoq bhar na jaye kaheen
Tu bhi dil say utar na jaye kaheen

Farah: Thank you for the correction, perhaps an oversight. Being a reader, I could not sense the strong emotion/pain/experience. I am still not clear on why the very mention of beating is in the highlighted sequence of steps?

Last time I heard of ``the said derangement`` was through a Sindhi woman, an acquaintance, with a very liberal feudal background. A few times, we ran into each other in a social gathering where this lady brought up the subject of beating. Turned out that most of her relationships had abusive men in the picture. And, ironically, she happened to lean on those men more than the ones who lacked this ``attribute.`` So much so that the man, she decided to settle down with, was nothing but a fully deranged makk`ar maniac - an abuser. The retard would kick out his wife in the middle of the night whenever they had a disagreement. This couple was living in the US. She tolerated that for a few years and then it took its toll on her -- a separation. What amazed me the most was that she never brought that to the attention of 911 or anyone else? There were so many horror stories from her end that one would literally think that they are watching a horror movie! A vicious cycle.

Coming back to what irked me: The way I read your flow of thoughts, it seemed that you were considering the said male derangement as a normal thing; and the one who was devoid of it appeared to be a unique case. By questioning, I am saying that it should be the other way around. Just thought I will clarify; in case, I was not clear earlier.

Personally, I strongly believe that any man who dares to violate a woman deserves nothing but a violation 10 times worse than what the woman under-went. Since men do not get penalized for maltreatment towards women therefore they roam around scot-free wearing a fine facade of piety. And, this is where the women need to put their foot down and take the damn ``emotions`` out of picture. My acquaintance had a very hard time taking the appropriate step.

ZahraJ
the `casual tone` could belie some stronger emotion/experience...
- Farah

Farah:

``Yes he loves me, doesn’t beat me, listens to my whining, my loving.``

Since when have women started considering beating as ``normal`` thing in any relationship ?
The very mention of ``physical abuse`` in a casual manner is extremely sick.

hmmm interesting...ur drama was sure a major kind farah but honestly stuff ``does`` pass us by and then we look back n say how stupid we were--but then sometimes not getting something and being pushed to something else can be worse than that...the yearning doesnt go...*sigh* crazy world huh?

This article is fascinating, immensely absorbing and reflective of the paradoxes of the human condition. It hints at the unfulfilled human desire to take off to the ethereal yonder while being shackled to what is mundane and practical. In a few masterly strokes, the colors peek out in vividly vibrant hues. There is a sense of elegy that grabs the reader. I thank you for your honesty.

this wasnt a hint to anybody :) just something id written a very long time ago, during an obviously very soap-opera-like time. my writing isnt always such an emotional diarrhea : P
anyway, here`s a thanks to all those who were empathetic. and to those who were confused (moulabux), well, better confused than depressed : )
- Farah

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That -- was really good. Exactly the right length, ended at the right note and full of everything that one can ask for in a read.

Farah, I hope you can reach, in the future, to the same place where you pulled this from, because if you can, you will be one of the luckiest people alive. I hope you understand my little prayer for you.

Farah,

``...yearning of having a Someone Special in my life. My darling soul mate who’d Want to Spend All His Time with Me, who’d ...``


I guess all of us humans have this deep yearning, don`t we?

We look all our life for someone...someone who`ll come into our lonely, stupid little lives and fill it completely...so completely that no more yearning is left.

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But in every effort to fill this aching loneliness, we return empty handed.

Like trying to fill a bucket with a hole at bottom.

If it`s a subtle hint to some forlorn chowkie that the wall around you is no longer impregnable, and can be penetrated [no pun intended], then BRAVO! Otherwise, don`t publish your memoirs.

Cheers.

I`m still trying to figure out what the real message is. A past admiration, a lost love that remains a memory or a bad marriage?

Well written but extreamly depressing for me.